Do I even owe it to her to tell her? I am an anonymous author writing under a pen name.
I started my own fan club for my book series because I began developing a cult following on a particular forum anyway. There was a handful of meetups. I founded it but it was managed by some of my fans, and I would just dip in and out from the background. Nobody knew it was me.
During one of the meetups, I met a girl, and we got to know each other better. I am usually not that successful with girls, probably struggling from depression, but we clicked somehow. I am more surprised that she actually liked me back. It didn't hurt that she liked my work too.
Nobody in my immediate life knew that I wrote, so there isn't really a way my wife would've found out through friends or family anyway. For all she knows, I am just have a regular day job and like playing tennis on my off time.
I have some money coming in from the books, but I manage the finance for most part and she doesn't really check, and the deposits aren't in our shared joint account. It's been like 3 years of marriage.
I don't want to tell her I am the writer. She has a certain image of the writer and I don't want to break it. Also it would be weird as frick.