Sight, hearing, taste, and smell each have their own small body part where the sensory magic happens—but not touch. Touch happens all over.
A kiss on the neck. A finger tracing circles on the small of your back. A tongue making its way up your inner thigh. Nerves interpret these moves as sensual bliss and the next thing you know you’re turned on and ready to go at it. Here’s how to make that happen with a few sensual massage techniques.
1. Start with the head.
Have her lie down with her head on a pillow. Rub her temples and forehead, take time to massage her entire scalp with your fingertips, then gently kiss her ears. This begins to relax the whole body and ease stress.
Bonus: Ears are a sensitive erogenous zone. Pay attention to them when you want to give someone pleasure chills.
2. Shoulders and back.
Get out the massage oil. With her face down—and naked—warm oil or lotion in your hands then apply it to her upper body. Use long strokes on the back and take your time kneading the shoulders.
Ask if the pressure is okay and adjust as needed. Bonus: Eventually make your way down to the buttocks. We carry stress there too, so massage the glutes before you flip them over for more.
The trick here is to build up slowly and end with the nipples. Tip via AskMen:
Tease that breast
Before you even start touching them, begin by using a feather to lightly move around her breasts, or you can even use your mouth to blow on her breasts and nipples, which will likely harden them.
Kiss that breast
Before you use your lips, start with your tongue. Harden the tip of it and use it only to lick the outermost tip of her nipple, one at a time. The cool air coupled with your hot saliva will harden those nipples dramatically and give her goose bumps all over.
Next, avoid her nipples altogether and concentrate on the outskirts of her breasts. Kiss the entire roundness and even make your way between her breasts and lick the area, and slide your tongue all the way up her neck until you reach her mouth and then kiss her.
Massage that breast
When you feel like your mouth has had its good share of the fun, break out the massage oil, body dust and the like, and drive her crazy with a breast massage unlike any other she's ever experienced. Literally rub them, bringing them together, and then squeeze gently and pinch her nipples occasionally.
If you're still hungry for the taste of her "breastness," why not take out the body paint and get busy on her body? Not only will the sensation of the brush tantalize her senses, but when you're done creating your work of art on your muse, you can eat it off.
And if you're still hungry after that (or thirsty for that matter), get a bowl of ice cubes, honey, or anything that you're in the mood for and get kinky on her.
The point of caressing her breasts for a longer period of time is so that you can understand and appreciate her body more and make her feel like you appreciate her, nipples and all.
Bonus: 24% of women can orgasm just from nipple stimulation. Double Bonus: Breast massage may help prevent cancer.
Apply oil or lotion here too, hold the foot with both hands, and use your thumbs to rub the sole without tickling them. Tiny circles are a good technique. Don’t forget the top of the foot too.
Bonus: Sliding a finger back and forth between each toe can be quite the erotic sensation.
5. Everywhere. Anywhere.
Don’t be shy about letting your hands wander. Nothing is off limits and everyone is unique, so explore and have fun finding out what your partner likes.
Think you can’t give a good massage? Erika Wright, a massage therapist, says, “It’s as easy as you allow it to be. Touch is so delightful and when done with loving intention, there’s no wrong way. Touch your partner the way you’d like to be touched. Be willing to put all of your focus and feeling into what you are doing. That is so much more powerful than ‘technique’ or ‘skill.’ They will be able to feel the love.”
One more thing: Consider this highly effective foreplay and have your birth control covered beforehand. You’re gonna need it.