Confidence doesn’t come naturally to everyone. You aren’t born with it. As a fat kid growing up, I had to develop it, as well as a sense of humor, if I wanted to not be made fun of.
I’ve seen ugly guys outkick their coverage and I’ve seen handsome men flounder, all because of confidence. Here are some of the obvious insecure mannerisms that women notice in a man with low self-esteem — aka, a BETA.
#1. Money and name-dropping obsession
Constantly bringing up money, doing name-dropping, or suggesting that they would meet minor offenses with “a real ass whooping.”
These guys are also often fuckbois or even sociopaths.
#2. Flip-flopping
When he won’t stand behind his own opinion. If he thinks “A” but I disagree and think “B,” and then he immediately changes his opinion and thinks “B”, too.
It’s okay to not agree on everything — have a backbone!
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#3. Text clinginess
Rapid fire texting: you text me, I text you back, you text me but I’m busy/driving/at work etc. I can’t check my phone for half an hour and I have 20 texts that get increasingly angrier with, “I’m sorry for ANNOYING you.”
#4. Sexual boasting
Sexual boasting. Even if I believed you banged those two girls, what makes you think I would be impressed and want to sleep with you?
#5. Lack of eye contact
Lack of eye contact! Dead giveaway.
#6. Excessive apologies
Excessive amount of apologies for nothing or for very little things. “I’m sorry, but you look beautiful.” What are you sorry for? Your sorry existence is what you should say sorry for.
#7. Bad posture
Bad posture. I know it’s not a 100% correlation with lack of confidence, but it makes it seem like you’re trying to hide, or take up less space, and it hides the parts of your body I’d be interested in looking at. Often bad posture can come form being hunched over a desktop computer, which, unless your job requires it, is what creeps do.
#8. Afraid of seriousness / not sharing things about himself
Not sharing. I knew a guy who would turn any conversation into a joke. Especially if asked something serious.
#9. Spying
Going through your phone, always thinking you’re cheating or will cheat. I man, do I have to elaborate? Keep doing this and one day you may get your wish…
#10. Being bothered by your sexual past
A guy who is insecure about your past lovers isn’t worth your time. If you still insist on keeping him, consider hiding or downplaying your promiscuous past.
#11. Constantly reminding you he’s bad, as if you didn’t already know
Constantly saying, “I’m bad with women.”
I know a guy who manages to say something like this every time I see him. The sad thing is he’s cute, talented, and could get a girl if he’d just stop with the low confidence speeches. Fuck off with that bitch energy.
Bonus: He is consumed by memes
People who make memes their entire lifestyle do so because they are afraid to develop or show their own individual personality. This is, needless to say, another sure sign of insecurity.
